HOW TO CHANGE YOUR MIND-SET
Part One: MONEY
Today I want to talk about how you can pro-actively change your mind-set about money. So, are you feeling lucky?
I was watching “The Adjustment Bureau” last night and thinking of how great it would be if there was a group of people watching all of us, at the ready to spill coffee on our clean clothes that would then send us home instead of into a casual conversation that leads to our “demise”. Demise in this case being the bad advice that has been passed on to us over the years about money, success, and self-fulfillment.
We start learning so many bad habits when we are very young. Hearing statements like “We don’t have the money for that” or “Money does not grow on trees” are common across all demographics. What is behind these words is also common…the word CAN’T. Can’t afford, can’t do this, can’t do that. It implies that something is out of our reach, and in many cases this is just not true.
What we’ve got here is failure to communicate…(thanks Cool Hand Luke!)
Ask anyone in the personal development world whether you can or cannot do something and they will quote Henry Ford: “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right”. This was quite an eye-opener for me personally, because I was raised with lack mentality and poverty consciousness. I am not blaming, I just finally saw the light!
In his book “Think and Grow Rich”, Napoleon Hill tells us about how his son was born with “no physical sign of ears” and doctors told his parents that he would might be deaf and mute for life. However, Hill had other ideas.
Hill desired that his son would be able to hear. With that mind-set, Hill observed all the things that his son, Blair, did that contradicted that diagnosis, and made it his full-time job to encourage his son that he could hear and speak, and that his deformity would not hold him back. Hill instilled in his son the desire to succeed regardless of circumstances!
I desire to win the lottery…now what?? Ok, well not really. I mean it might be nice, but I would rather have a steady stream of money flowing into my life that I am in control of. With the odds of still having some of the lottery money two years after the win as highly unlikely to nil, I am going for the long game here. How about you?
But where to start the change? One way, is to take those old stories from your past, and turn them around. “We don’t have money for that” becomes “I always have more than enough money”; “Money doesn’t grow on trees” becomes “Money is always plentiful”. All you are doing is changing the way you look at things and giving them a positive outcome. Write it down. Look at it daily. Say it out loud or in your head whenever you look at it. Simple no? Focus on having it now, in the present tense…not wanting it, but already having it!
It may seem silly or strange, and I started running out of sticky notes in my bedroom when doing this, but it does work. And when you realize that it does work, you can change your mind-set about anything. You just need to tap in to those negative statements about money and change them to positives, and then keep reinforcing the positive message into your subconscious. You do not even need to know what the negative statements are, just start focusing on positives.
If you think this sounds weird or strange, consider what your negative mindset is doing for your life. Indeed!
I watched an old movie from 1960 called Pollyanna. This girl was an orphan, and when her parents passed away she was sent to live with her unmarried aunt. Pollyanna could have been feeling sorry for herself and her life, but instead she tried to find something to be glad about in every situation. Now that’s the spirit!
This is not a quick fix and I will caution you that it does not happen overnight, but as soon as you start to make changes, better things start happening for you…so start now!
It will help you to write down any positives about money that happen in your life after you start changing your thinking. If you keep track of gifts you receive, amounts of cash coming to you that you were not expecting, or someone offering to help you fix your car for free, look at it for what it is…a positive change in your life, and in the case of someone fixing your car for free, it is worth money.
Do not dismiss these gifts as inconsequential; they are signs from the universe that things are moving in the direction that you seek. If you keep track of all of these events and then look back on them, you will see a pattern of things getting better!
If you make a mistake…
Priority one to keep in mind is that mistakes happen. While changing your mindset is a fluid, ongoing process, mistakes will be made. Mistakes are not bad or wrong, they are just feedback. They give you information so that you can course-correct, and try something else.
If you are having problems with your blogging such as a lack of traffic or no money coming in yet, that is a sign to make some tweaks in what you are doing. I am talking about established blogs, not ones that are only a few months old. New blogs need content…lots and lots of quality content to attract visitors.
DO NOT make a lot of changes, because it can be hard to figure out which things are working and which are not. Make one change at a time, and monitor the result over a period of weeks. Take into consideration what is going on in the world, for example the season. Summer is a time for people to be at the beach or on vacation so your traffic may slow down in summer. Same with winter holidays.
Why did you start a blog in the first place? Was it to make money or to help people? Do you have too many ads compared to the amount of content on site? Is your content engaging or just engaging to you? Ask for feedback about your site from people who are impartial.
Do not beat yourself up if you discover that you have made a mistake, just assess it for what it is, and move on. It is imperative that you remain on your own side during this process. You must be your own best friend, cheerleader, and Advisor. You must make the decision to get up, brush yourself off, and carry on with this new information.
As long as you are on your own side, you will always have one person in your corner. Listen to your own intuition when it comes to making decisions about your life. No one pays for your mistakes except you, so get used to doing all the deciding for yourself, and do it from a place of love. You want the best for you, right? Make decisions that move you towards your goals.
If you want a successful money mind-set, then you need to associate with people who already have that going for them, so that you can learn from them. Napoleon Hill encouraged people reading his book to start a “mastermind” group of like-minded individuals, so you can bounce ideas off of each other, as well as sharing resources. If you can, find a local group, but if that is not an option, then look for groups online, such as Facebook.
An easy jumping off point is to find blogs that are similar to yours, and start visiting them and adding comments. Get a dialogue going with other bloggers and try to make some kind of connection. Read the “About Me” of your fellow blogger, and see if you have things in common (aside from blogging).
They may be able to give you some tips or tricks that they have used to increase traffic and this is better than just reading articles on the internet for ways to increase your stats. You can also observationally see how their site measures up to yours. Are they using more compelling post titles? Are their posts a lot longer than yours…or shorter?
After you have an established relationship with some of your compatriots, ask them to write a guest post. If they are successful with their blogs, some of their traffic will likely come to your site to read the post, and you can hopefully gain some traffic and perhaps sales that way.
If your new blogger friends offer criticism, take it at face value. Remember that you are responsible for what is happening on your blog, so again I would caution not to make too many changes at one time, regardless of who is suggesting the change.
I hope this has been helpful. I know for myself, that working on making my own mindset more positive has helped me see that there is hope after losing my job. I was directed to start a blog and here I am! Learning, learning, learning 🙂
Please share your thoughts about this post in the comments section below. I am always interested in how people feel about Law of Attraction-type posts. As well, if you have any personal stories to share on how changing your mindset has impacted your life, please bring them forward!! I would love to read them 🙂
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