In Part Two: Steps to Success,  I am presenting the strategies that I use to make a clear path for my intuition to really work for me. To be successful with affiliate marketing and blogging in general, YOU MUST BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND YOUR ABILITY TO BE SUCCESSFUL, even when things go haywire. This is where your intuition comes in.

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Since I have started using these tools, I have been led on a completely new path in my life. A path that gives me hope for my future. I know that when I return to work after my injury is healed, that I can continue all the things that I am doing now to create my own personal successful future!

As well, knowing that I am “creating” my life fills my heart to overflowing! Even though I still have my 9-to-5 job, I know that soon I can transition out of it and I will no longer be working to make money for someone else…I will be making it for my family! And I can teach these skills to my family so that they will have this freedom as well!

And the best part is that no matter what happens to me in the future, I will be ok. I will have income from multiple sources, so if something happens to one, I will still be able to pay the rent! I will have all the skills I need to cope with whatever life brings to me, but you know, since I started using these strategies things in my life keep getting better and better. But hey, you never know right?

After going through a few years of emotionally painful and very stressful events, it took some time to find the tools that worked for me. They may not all work for you, but it is a place to start. Keep what works and put it in your toolbox, and discard the rest.

Journaling

I cannot recommend this enough. Writing in your journal is not the same as keeping a diary. It is more about getting your thoughts out of your head. If you want to look back on them, a journal is a great way to do that. You can also drive out of town and scream your thoughts and frustrations, or if you have a trusted counsellor you can tell them.

If you want to talk to someone about your thoughts, I would suggest an unbiased person as opposed to spouse, friends or family who have their own reasons for giving the advice they do and it still may not be in your best interests.

Also, why burden those that you love? Especially if you are just venting. Journaling is great because you can say the things that you do not want your family and friends to know that you think, ie I HATE THAT PERSON!! Or I WISH SO AND SO WOULD JUST JUMP OFF OF A CLIFF! Or HOW DID THAT PERSON GET PROMOTED OVER ME???

I don’t know about you, but I really do not want my child to hear me say that I hate someone. It is just not fair to burden them with temporary feelings of anger, hurt and frustration.

Journaling is great for the frustrations about work, children, home, and problems in general. Salesclerk was ignorant to you at the store? Write it out! How she made you feel, how angry you were, how you kept your mouth shut because your kid was with you.

The thing about life these days is that it is busy. We do not give ourselves proper time to process events. They do not resolve properly if we do not deal with them, and they clutter our thinking with unprocessed feelings.

You can do this on your computer or in a nice journal from the dollar store. Set a timer for 5 minutes and just write anything that comes into your head. If you do not know where to start, try writing “I do not know what I am doing here” and then tell yourself why you don’t.

I felt so stupid when I started doing this, but trust me, it is an awesome way to clear your head of useless crap! I have journals of various sizes all over my home, and one beside the bed for ideas I get just before I fall asleep.

I read somewhere that you have approximately 10 seconds to write down a great idea before it is lost to your next thoughts. Write stuff down! It does not have to mean anything right now, but as you look back over time, you will see a pattern to your thinking. This is part of your intuition trying to guide you.

It is also a good idea to carry a note book to write good ideas in as you are learning who you really are. Once you start clearing the junk out, you make room for your intuition to thrive and motivate you in the direction you should go.

EFT/Tapping 

People look at me like I have another head growing out of my shoulder when I talk to them about tapping, but it is a very helpful way to clean negative energy from our body.

Basically, you tap various acupuncture meridian points on your upper body while saying your negative feelings out loud. After you do this a couple of times, you switch over to saying these negatives in a more positive light, while still tapping.

I was amazed at how quickly it helped me get over some seriously upsetting feelings in my life. I will admit that in this case, the event had happened recently, but I was able to clear it in one afternoon with 4 rounds of tapping on different aspects of the pain.

I have also been able to let go of painful feelings from long ago, like when I was in elementary school and my teacher ignored me when I had my hand up. She treated me like I was invisible to her, for whatever reason. And for some reason, this memory crops up and brings hurt with it. I tapped through this not long ago, and now when I think of it I have compassion for the teacher and whatever was going on in her life that would cause her to ignore me. I would rather feel compassion than the feelings of inadequacy that I was feeling before!

There is an amazing assortment of videos on youTube by EFT practitioners. I always recommend Brad Yates (Tap with Brad) as he has over 600 videos on all sorts of helpful subjects. Seriously, why feel bad when you do not have to? We all have unpleasant memories and regrets. Clear that pain and move on!

I only tap now when some unpleasant memory crops up and I want to clear the pain associated with it. I really believe that this should be taught in grade school as a coping mechanism because it is just that helpful.

I wrote about Tap With Brad here. Brad is an awesome teacher of EFT and he makes the process very pleasant!

Mirror Work

The awesome Louise Hays, who passed away recently at the age of 90, has tons of great self-help stuff at her website Hayhouse publishing.

The one that I want to recommend is “21 days of Mirror Work” by Louise Hays. Mirror work is basically looking into a mirror (or other shiny reflective surface), looking yourself in the eyes and saying something nice about yourself.

Many of us are beat down daily. We are verbally abused by bosses, taken advantage of by people paid to repair something like our car, and even insulted by strangers. This can take a toll, especially if the negative people in question accidentally confirm our worst suspicions about ourselves (YOU IDIOT! YOU LOSER! YOU B*TCH!)

We deserve better, but even if you have people in your life who are supportive, we often still have those nagging voices inside our heads that tell us that we are unworthy in some way, or worse, unlovable just as we are.

We can learn to love ourselves, and love ourselves in way that we need. The added benefit of this is that we will also be able to accept the love that is given to us by other people and it will be enough for us.

I know countless people in unhappy relationships (with a partner, with a child, with a job) who want a type of love from others that they cannot give, either because they do not know how or do not understand what you need.

You can be done with that when you love yourself, just as you are, with all the gifts and talents that God/Source/the universe has given you. This helps you to be free to love others as they are.

Practice Gratitude 

This is a biggy, and by far the easiest way to figure out what your true gifts are. Being thankful for everything that you have and anything that is coming your way is the best way to start being happier and more content with life. And as you become more comfortable with your new life, amazing things will happen. a hear shaped pendant with the words I am grateful written on it

Being grateful brings you more things to be grateful about. And when you realize that you have the power to bring better things into your life just by being grateful about what you already have, you will start to understand the immense power that you have to change your life into anything you want it to be.

Want a better job? Be grateful for the job you have. Try to find all the positives about your job, write them down and be grateful. Want a better relationship with your kids? Write down all the things that you love about them and who they are as people and your relationship with them will change!

I read about this in The Secret by Rhonda Byrne, but I did not understand its power until I put it into practice. And practice you must! It is a good habit to get into and has many benefits, like changing how you think about the people or “things” in your life. Gratitude changes everything for the better!

The beauty of these strategies is that some of them can be combined together. When I am at a red light and sitting in traffic, I will look into my rear view mirror and look into my eyes while saying “Thank you for the blessings I have, thank you for the blessing I am receiving” and I usually tap meridian points on my face while I do this.

Or I just tap and say thank you while driving. Or if I am journaling a painful memory, I might stop and go look into my eyes in a mirror and say something loving to myself like “you were so brave to tolerate that without saying something” and many times after I do that, I just do not feel like I have anything left to journal about on the subject.

Since I have started implementing these strategies in my own life, I am calm about pretty much everything. I have also been able to recognize opportunities to change my life. Like reading the e- book about learning to write e-books led me to discovering what affiliate marketing is all about.

After reading about that I decided that I wanted to learn what I needed to be able to do that myself, which led to me watching webinars and trying out programs that taught this information (there are a few!). I also discovered that some of these are pretty high priced and only teach certain aspects of affiliate marketing. I also found tons of scams! And I could recognize that they were scams right off the top because my intuition told me to “watch out”.

And this led me to want to share this information with other people who may be looking for the same answers that I was looking for. I have read countless articles about people who lost thousands of dollars to scammy educational opportunities that kept charging more and more and more for the information to get a website online.

Or they wanted to promote their own stuff but could not because the education they received was only helpful in promoting the program that they bought in to. You do not know until you pay $99 and sign up, and then you get sucked into their sales funnel. Bummer.

Final Thoughts

Ya, it all sounds pretty woo-woo, but people required their intuition to survive for centuries before these times. These days, we are told to leave our health with doctors, our sanity with psychologists, our careers to universities, our relationships to online dating sites. The world tells us that we do not need to trust ourselves. How is that working out for us??

What are your thoughts on this articel? Does anything resonate with you? Please comment as I would love to hear from you and your thoughts on these ideas and I will respond to each one. Or do you have questions about any of the strategies that I wrote about today? You can also message me at support@fearlessaffiliate.com

Cheers, and follow me on Pinterest!

Irma 🙂

Author: Irma

A single mom and online entrepreneur, learning to navigate through courses, webinars, and PDF downloads to create a new life for myself, and to teach others to do the same!

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16 thoughts on “Steps to Success

  1. Believe, you’ll reach your goal. Thanks Irma, you’re the best

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    1. Awwwh thank you! And thank you for visiting us today 🙂

      Cheers,
      -Irma 🙂

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  2. You have a great website and this is really great Blog.
    Wish I can get my site to this level. I guess will keep pushing.

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    1. Hello Halim and thank you for visiting today!

      And thank you for your positive comments!

      Cheers,
      Irma 🙂

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  3. Hello, thanks for sharing this in-depth post that has tons of good information and will be a good help to your readers.

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    1. Happy New Year Norman, and thank you for sharing!

      Cheers,
      Irma 🙂

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  4. You know what? You are absolutely right. We do not give ourselves time to process events. That may be why some people have shrinks, or go to confession. Journaling is a good way to process events and be totally honest with ourselves. We should trust ourselves more. I will try these techniques, in combination,too for a healthier, wiser me. Thank you for the article. Will you please write more on these techniques and other techniques you find helpful to us?

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    1. Happy New Year Latricia,

      And yes, I will be writing more on these techniques, mostly because they have helped me so much, and I want to share that. I felt silly trying each of those techniques, but now they are old friends who help me to achieve mental balance and clarity.

      Cheers,
      Irma 🙂

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  5. Hi Irma,

    Thank you for sharing your experience. I completely agree with you, in order to be successful in anything, you must believe in yourself. Doubt is nothing less than belief in failure. I love these strategies, tried them all. In my opinion, gratitude is the most powerful one, and in combination with EFT tapping is even better. Great article!

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    1. Happy New Year Blanka,

      And thank you for sharing your experiences. I agree, gratitude will propel you into the life that you want faster than anything else!

      Cheers,
      Irma 🙂

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  6. Hi Irma, I really like the notebook, I already use one. Already on the first day of using it to write down ideas, I could save some good thoughts I had. It took me about three days from wanting to get hold of a book to actually get it and during these days I already started collecting thoughts but didn’t write them down. At least half of them I forgot during the three days.
    Thanks for the great tips again here.
    See you, Stefan 🙂

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    1. Happy New Year Stefan,

      I used to be like that as well, and surprisingly it did not take long to get into the habit of writing down my “great ideas”. I actually wrote down an idea for a book the other night! I read once that this is how great inventions come to be…people thought up a great idea and then acted upon it. But you have to remember the idea first! lol

      Cheers,
      Irma 🙂

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  7. You said “The world tells us that we do not need to trust ourselves. How is that working out for us??” – and that is absolutely brilliant. It’s a big part of what’s wrong with everyone these days- we’ve lost touch with our gut, third eye, intuition, spidey sense…whatever you wanna call it. Everyone’s out to make money and one way to do that is capitalize on our insecurities. I like the tools you reviewed to build up self esteem and self trust, especially journaling and mirror work. thanks for the great post!

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    1. Happy New Year Penelope, and thank you for your positive comments!

      It is funny that you mention spidey-sense, because there is a recurrent theme in movies (The Avengers movies come to mind) of shady groups of higher-ups trying to keep us subservient by taking away our power or convincing us that they know better what is good for us.

      Well, we have the choice/power of what we think and choosing to think positive thought of our own success seems like a great place to start our best year ever!

      Cheers,
      Irma 🙂

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  8. Insightful write-up on Steps to Success.Keep up the good work.

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    1. Happy New Year Vic and thank you very much!

      Cheers,
      Irma 🙂

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